Mom (90) wishes a party – who will pay?

posted in: Etiquette, Family, Senior | 0
Carolyn Hax
My mother wants a birthday (90) party and volunteers her kids to pay –

My mother turns 90 this month. She said she wanted a party to celebrate the milestone. My three siblings are fine with carrying out her plan by helping with the invitations, finding a caterer, music, etc. I’m planning a surprise presentation for her to honor her artistry. We never discussed who would pay for all this but we all mentioned in passing, who will pay for all this?

My mother just announced she wanted to divide the cost between us four children. As much as I love my mother, I got a little miffed (okay . . . a lot miffed) that I was being volun-told I’m paying for a quarter of the party. We all expected we would help cover the costs but not to this extent. I can barely afford the only vacations I’ve got planned this year, a total of two weekends! She can afford it: She just got a rather large inheritance and after years of saving and struggling she’s now financially secure. Please help!

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